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New Baby on Board ? The Effect on Relationship Satisfaction…

Helping Couples Thrive and Babyproofing your Partnership.

Did you know that there is a 67% drop in relationship satisfaction after the birth of a child. Yes that’s right 67%. Ouch! (APA’s 2011 Annual Convention by John Gottman, PhD, and published in the Journal of Family Psychology (Vol. 14, No. 1)). Having a child is a “complete reorganization of the structure of your life,” and that includes your sex life. When there is a decline in relationship satisfaction and an increase in hostility, it transfers to the baby and affects the baby.

Some of the issues that arise during the first years of a young family:

Happy couples engage in lifelong learning about one another. Even as they celebrate their silver anniversaries, these couples ask one another open-ended questions, such as, “What life goals are you still hoping to accomplish?” They maintain connection rituals—such as eating dinner together and family play times. These activities help couples develop a sense of mutual purpose on a daily basis, learning to ask one another about their larger life goals, and brainstorming ways in which to help each other realize their individual goals.

This post is based on the book Babyproofing Your Marriage. It may help those of you in this situation. Babyproofing Your Marriage is a simple and sometimes humorous book to read, written by three mothers. The book is full of anecdotes from other people who have been there and done it. It has some useful tips. Some of you may find it a little old fashioned in its gender stereotyping or even un-PC. For others it will be on point. Its target is definitely the heterosexual community.

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There ‘s definitely plenty of space in the market for another good book on the early years of the new family and its effects on partner relationships.

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